A common belief in some is that for a good relationship in a family the man has to impress his wife and children every now and then with goodies. In fact at this juncture a person even losses his intellect to rethink if he on the other side of the law in doing so. He very slowly gets into the whirlpool of corruption before he can recall what he was up to. Once if he is caught he justifies that all that he had done is for his family. Is it acceptable?????
A male Bower bird builds and decorates an elaborate nest to impress his partner. This is the way its nature has allowed it to display its care for the partner but it does hard work for that. It picks up all bright coloured soft materials such as feathers, leaves, ferns and creeper curls. It never grabs from the nest of others. Agreed man has to prove his ability to keep his family in comforts. In enjoying the comforts the wife will never want her man to earn unlawfully and get into trouble. Let him be a Govt servant or a public / private sector employee or for the mater has his own business a person should always stick to what he has to do in a righteous manner as living respectfully is what the ultimate wish of a caring wife is. Generally she can be contented with what is earned by her husband and tries to run the family and keep it happy, if not all at least our Indian women are so.
We know Valmiki as the great sage who wrote the Ramayana, but he was not so in his early life. In his youth he was a highway robber. He was then called Ratnakar. Young and strong, he attacked travelers going by lonely roads and stole their money and valuables. He knew this was wrong, but he thought it was the only way he could make his livelihood. Moreover, his father, mother and wife were there at home, depending on him.
One day Ratnakar caught hold of a traveler who had nothing. Angry, he asked him how he could wander around like that. “I am the Narada,” said the traveler. “I travel freely even between heaven and earth.” After knowing the intentions of Ratnakar, Narada asked him whether his family would share his sins as they enjoy his share of booty. Without battling the eyelids Ratnakar they would, but did not sound too sure of himself. Narada asked him to go to them and find out. So the robber tied Narada securely and went to his family.
His father, his mother and even his wife refused to share his sins. They told him that it was the duty of the man of the house to feed the family and in doing so if he has accumulated sin that was unconcern to the family members. Ratnakar was shocked that all these years he had been doing this entire sinful act because he wanted his family to be happy but now he realized that what he had done was foolishness. His eyes were opened. Going back to the tree where Narada was tied, he told the sage what had happened. He begged forgiveness and asked Narada how he may atone for his sins. Narada taught the young man to righteousness and told him to go into the forest and do contemplation. He went into solitude and began to practice meditation and prayer. And then he wrote Ramayana the great epic.
It can be noticed that mostly (% wise) it is men who are more willing to pay or take bribes compared to women who are more reserved to pay or recieve bribe. This does not mean that men are more corrupt than women. The fact is that men are more inclined towards paying bribe because they are more in touch with this horribly rotten system and compared to women, they have this notion that things won't work without bribing. Men deal with corruption more often than women. It has been also noticed that when a woman wants to pay bribe or take bribe it is en-routed through a man. In both the cases if it is men or women ultimate idea of taking bribe is to amass money intentionally to keep them happy but what is the use if they are to spend rest of life behind bars or lose peace of mind. There are many instances we see around us including the active participants of CWG, 2G, Coalgate, Railgate, Choppergate, Adarsh and so on..
A happy wife can be proud of being happy but will a proud wife feel happy?????
One shouldnt cross the limits of morality and ethics just to pl one s wife.A streak of negative thought is there .and he does it and makes others think it is for the family.
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