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Live for the present does not mean you have to discard the past or be unconcern of the future. The route to happiness is in balancing your focus between the past, present and future. To live a happy family life all the three are to be taken into consideration. Elders in the family have the knowledge of how you can use the resources available and fulfill the needs of the family, you can learn from their past. But it is so unfortunate that the parents in most of the families do not have right to give any suggestions. It is always better to keep them in the loop while taking a major decision in the family. Their suggestions may occur sometimes as outdated but they are the one who give right direction at confused situations. Besides they have also been through all the phases in life that you are going through now and know a little more about the world than you do. However much you may disagree with them, give them credit for their experience. It is obvious that you do not agree with their beliefs and the sentiments, but then remember that even this is nothing new. Over the years the younger generations have always disagreed with their elders and it is these differences are known to them when they become elders. Listen to the past as it is very helpful for the present.
Present is such a lovely thing to live with and a gift of joy from Absolute that is why it is called a “PRESENT”. Spouse is the representation of present. It is always better to share the ideas with her/him and get ideas from her/him so that the family has a nice bonding. Also the bonding should be such that at times there should be no necessity to consult either of them if they are confident with each other. There is no question of either of them thinking that they have been taken for grant, if the understanding is at the pinnacle. This extreme bond has to be with a person whom we cannot live without, not with someone whom we can live with. There is no question of sacrificing in the life of either of them if they develop a mutual sense of values and common objectives. The bond between them makes them become the sides of the same coin even though they are not looking at each other they are together. It exerts dependence mutually, independence equally, and obligations jointly. Interact with the present as it is the link for the past and the future.
Future are the kids and most important of the entire family. Children are given academic education in schools and that is not all, they need to know about morality. In recent times there is decline of morality among our children and it has reached a state of bother. There may be many social factors that have contributed to this state of affairs but one of the main causes is lack of parenting skills among the young parents. Morality is not that thing wherein a parent has to spare time and teach them, the way the parents conduct themselves in front of the child is enough for the kid to learn. What is the use if a parent who has told a good story on truth and its benefits at bedtime and asks the child in the morning to answer the mobile and tell the one on the line that is he not present in the house? Talk good and behave good to have a bright future.
Past has to correct the Future so that the Present is happy!!!!
Live for the present does not mean you have to discard the past or be unconcern of the future. The route to happiness is in balancing your focus between the past, present and future. To live a happy family life all the three are to be taken into consideration. Elders in the family have the knowledge of how you can use the resources available and fulfill the needs of the family, you can learn from their past. But it is so unfortunate that the parents in most of the families do not have right to give any suggestions. It is always better to keep them in the loop while taking a major decision in the family. Their suggestions may occur sometimes as outdated but they are the one who give right direction at confused situations. Besides they have also been through all the phases in life that you are going through now and know a little more about the world than you do. However much you may disagree with them, give them credit for their experience. It is obvious that you do not agree with their beliefs and the sentiments, but then remember that even this is nothing new. Over the years the younger generations have always disagreed with their elders and it is these differences are known to them when they become elders. Listen to the past as it is very helpful for the present.
Present is such a lovely thing to live with and a gift of joy from Absolute that is why it is called a “PRESENT”. Spouse is the representation of present. It is always better to share the ideas with her/him and get ideas from her/him so that the family has a nice bonding. Also the bonding should be such that at times there should be no necessity to consult either of them if they are confident with each other. There is no question of either of them thinking that they have been taken for grant, if the understanding is at the pinnacle. This extreme bond has to be with a person whom we cannot live without, not with someone whom we can live with. There is no question of sacrificing in the life of either of them if they develop a mutual sense of values and common objectives. The bond between them makes them become the sides of the same coin even though they are not looking at each other they are together. It exerts dependence mutually, independence equally, and obligations jointly. Interact with the present as it is the link for the past and the future.
Future are the kids and most important of the entire family. Children are given academic education in schools and that is not all, they need to know about morality. In recent times there is decline of morality among our children and it has reached a state of bother. There may be many social factors that have contributed to this state of affairs but one of the main causes is lack of parenting skills among the young parents. Morality is not that thing wherein a parent has to spare time and teach them, the way the parents conduct themselves in front of the child is enough for the kid to learn. What is the use if a parent who has told a good story on truth and its benefits at bedtime and asks the child in the morning to answer the mobile and tell the one on the line that is he not present in the house? Talk good and behave good to have a bright future.
Past has to correct the Future so that the Present is happy!!!!
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