They say that there are only two
motivating force, one is “LOVE” and the other is “FEAR”. While love opens up to
life fear holds back from life. In the rhythm of life opening up as well as
holding back has its own importance. So can we agree that love and fear can
both exist???
Yes, it depends on the individual
way of applying it or accepting it I suppose. To illustrate further I would
like to share a story which is a very old one. In a village lived two farming couple
who were neighbours. They had their fields also next to each other and every
morning the men would go to the field to work and the ladies would bring them
lunch in the afternoon. Both
the farmers grew millet in the field and as an intermediate crop they also cultivated
Avarekai (Hyacinth Beans) which normally grows November-February.
There is a
recipe in Karnataka which is prepared by these hyacinth beans called “Hitikida
Avarekalu Saaru” which goes well with Ragi Mudde (Finger Millet ball). With the
Hyacinth crop being harvested, the first farmer one day told his wife to make the
curry for dinner and went to the field. The dish was ready by the dinner time
and it was a routine to serve the special dish in the bronze plate as against
the plantain leaf which they normally used.
Alas! She
forgot.
Husband
arrived, freshened up washing his hands and feet and sat down for dinner. The
wife had kept everything ready to serve the meal. She took out the plantain
leaf placed it before him. The husband lost his temper and shouted at his
wife questioning her why the meal was not being served in the bronze plate. The
wife tried to explain that she forgot but he was in no mood to listen. He pushed
the plate away and went to sleep. Feeling disappointed at the incidence she
too slept without dinner.
For a
person who has worked the whole day in the field it is difficult to sleep on an
empty stomach. The farmer got up midnight and went to the kitchen. He
served himself in the plantain leaf and enjoyed the meal. As he had finished and
was about to roll the plantain leaf he heard his wife’s voice, “Just leave it,
I will have the meal and put away the leaf” (it was an old custom for the wife
to eat from the same plate or leaf which the husband had). Then the farmer
realised that his wife too had slept without dinner. He realised his idiocy
and learnt his lesson. He started
loving her even more since then.
A week
later the same incidence happened in the other farmer’s house. The script was
same, same curry, same plantain leaf, same temper, same pushing of plate and up
to farmer going to sleep everything same. Only change was that his wife had her
meal before sleeping. Again here too because of the work in the filed the whole day, the farmer was hungry and he too got up midnight and served himself a meal in
the plantain leaf. He could not take even a bite, the curry was too salty. When
he was about to get up he heard his wife’s voice, “I thought I will serve you
in the bronze plate in the morning. Since you are more interested in the plate
than the curry, I added extra salt in the curry, it should not really matter. Will
it?”
The farmer
did not know what to say. Seeing his faded face his wife asked him to sit
and served him the meal with a curry kept separately, with normal dose of
salt. The farmer realised his folly and learnt his lesson. He started fearing his wife even more since
then.
Now, I cannot say which wife was spot on in handling her husband as love
and fear did motivate well in either incidence.......What say???
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