Success is the yardstick to gauge a person in this materialist world. The more successful one is the more elite one is considered. What seem to be amazing is that there are many who made the person successful yet we think that success is self made. In this universe every creature is dependent on other for its survival as well as success. I am never a self made person as I owe my success to many.
Then is the caption “Self Made Person” a myth? Yes, as I personally feel that there is a certain level of Egoism present in it. In this monetary world my success relies on many who recognize that there is something that I can offer to the world. A doctor is as dependent on the Hospital as the patient. A doctor did not become self made person just by studying medicine it was the patients who has proved him to be a doctor and that too a good doctor. In general producers need consumers and consumers need producers. There are like two sides of a coin and both are dependent on each other. This is how nature too works look at a bee it is as dependent on the flower as the flower is dependent on the bee. The bee looking at its hive cannot boast that it is self made nor can the flower tell that it became fruit all by itself. Bee and flower are interdependent and both are benefited by either of them.
Then why did the sentence “Self Made Person” come into existence then?
A person who has reached certain heights in certain field from scratch is considered by others as “Self Made Person”. And the person who has thrived to achieve so should also feel the same in his heart not from his head. The thought of self made in the heart resonates to the other around him and motivates them to emulate him. If the thought is resonating from the head it is sure to inflate the ego of the person and make others around him to turn back considering this trait as some miracle which should not have been.
So there is nothing like “Self Made Person” as it is just a matter of perception. One who thinks that he is self made by considering himself as a part of this hierarchical world sits at the top beating his chest and propping-up his ego. While a humble guy who is made to the top can view himself as the hub at the center of a large and diverse network. The latter is both more profitable and enjoyable than the former. One can either opt to build a career at the expense of others or by helping others one need to choose wisely.
Is it correct to say one should not be self made then?
In my recent post on Dharma one of my fellow seeker had responded thus: The Dharma of a daughter-in-law is to look after her mother-in-law. If the mother-in-law is hale and healthy and she is able to walk to her kitchen to fetch a glass of water, she need not order it to her daughter-in-law taking the advantage of her daughter-in-laws dharma. Here the statement of self made person is pushed off under the carpet. I appreciate those who look at themselves as “self made person” from this post of view……..….What Say???