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Reciprocal love is a means to share and should
never be mistaken to be “I
love you because you love me” circumstance. If one has understood it well he discovers the
balance of mutual respect in it and make him think that there is great intimacy
and has a trendy traditions reinforces in it. It is never a love of exchange or
trade though it may appear to be conditional as it is a response to certain
needs when they are met. At times this kind of love could also be automatic and
impulsive. It blossoms out of me when I am satisfied and sated with love which I
am least expecting from my counterpart.
Reciprocal love is not a bad thing; in
fact it is indirectly a reason for the life to go on. I am a human and it is
oblivious for me to respond to the take and give mechanism. In this way it may
make me behave self-oriented but that is how it is. In a way reciprocal love
may work as puffing up my ego and yearns to show the depth in it.
In contrast unconditional love is divine
and different. I need not look far to find it; I experienced it in my mother.
Every person has relished that love from his mother. If there is a thick
bondage between the siblings and the parents it is very normal to comprehend
that kind of love. If one has received such kind of love, it often will pour
out on to others as well. Unconditional love dwells in the open-hearted person
who has a nature to be cool even if the love he is spreading may not give any
guarantee of a similar reciprocal emotion to him.
There are no parameters by which love
cannot be judged of its quality. To express love to someone simple because they
are good looking or smart does end up in a disaster. Love has to be without any
sort of terms and conditions. Unconditional love goes beyond such conditions
and reaches into the very essence of the object of affection. To those who
understand unconditional love they say only one thing: I don’t care if you do or
do not respond to my love, but still I love you because you and I are one soul
with two bodies. This attitude is to love everyone and everything, without
attached strings and judging. Unhappiness is experienced when expectations are
not met. If I can love without expectations, then I am definitely happy.
After much is told on unconditional love
which I need to practice, I should not expect my counterpart to be like me. If
there is a shower of love over me by my counterpart I have to respond to it,
through reciprocal love. If I do not respond then it would look like one sided
affair from others point of view, of not my counterparts.
The love showered by the Sun on the Sunflower
is unconditional, but the Sunflower facing the Sun with a smile is reciprocal.
The Sunflower faces the Sun the entire day and at night it bends itself and
waits for the Sun to reappear at dawn to face and smile at it again. The
scientific name for this phenomenon is “Heliotropism” but what I learn from
this spectacular occurrence is that I need to show unconditional love to others
like Sun and at the same time while I am receiving love, whether it is
conditional or unconditional from other I have consciously reciprocate and show
my love to them like the Sunflower. Hence I do need to give unconditional love and at the same time display reciprocal love when I receive one…….. I suppose you too agree with me ……!!!!
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