723. Is Maturity Directly Proportional to the Chronological Age??

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I used to feel that Prabuddha Tatvam (Maturity) is a quality that is obtained with age, and now I understand that I was wrong. The routine belief is that the older one grows the more mature he is. To some extent this is true, but there are some instances where a few adults are very immature, while modern younger kids are much more mature in terms of the need to survive in this world. Those immature people are not only childish (note: not childlike) but are not self-reliable they need the support of alcohol or drugs to help them comes to the point of admitting.

Also we have imagined that the experience in our life will get us maturity. Yes, this is also true; but if we give a though to what we do with our experience we will know if we are matured enough or not. Maturity doesn't mean we accept or generate the ability to analyse the mistakes that happen by us. Rather maturity calls for the ability of staying away from making the same mistakes again. To sum it up I feel that maturity is the stage where analyzing of a mistake stops and the one is made up his mind not to get into the same situation again. Maturity does not mean experience only, but experience is one of the ways to get matured. It is a responsibility of our thought word and deed and development of ability to manage anger and know about the art of settling differences without hurting others. It also gives us lesson on patience and pours in the secret behind the readiness to pass up instant pleasure in favor of the long-term bliss.

Mature person has a lot of humility; he does not fall back to tell that he does not know when a much younger person than him is telling something on a subject which he really does not know. At the same time if he is referring to a subject to a much older person to him who is listening, he does not have the attitude of “I know it, don’t you”.      

A Mature individual is the one who has mastered the art of living in harmony. He lives with that which cannot be changed and has enough courage to change that which needs to be changed. And most importantly he does know the difference of the two also. He has the ability to make a decision and stand by it while an immature spend his entire life discovering endless possibilities to the solution and come up with nothing at all.