Saturday, November 9, 2013

253. Situation of a Married life from Rocking to on the Rocks…..

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The enchanting and mesmerizing moments of the union of the two families and the compliance of the bride and bridegroom to accept each other as the husband and wife in a wedding has its merit when the couple live happily as soul mates till the end. Living together happily does not mean staying under one roof but mentally they have to live in each other. In recent times the togetherness between the couples which is expected to be forever, unfortunately for some, last only for a short period after the marriage. In the matter of a few years the situation of the marriage which was rocking will go on rocks. Why is it so????? What might be the reasons??? 

The reasons may be many, some very serious issues like adultery, alcoholism while some are petty and resolvable issues. In these petty reasons the pivoted and most important reasons are two. Of those two one has to be kept and the other discarded. That which has to be kept is TRUST and the one that has to be discarded is POSSESSIVENESS

Trust is vital ingredient in cementing an intimate relationship between husband and wife. Trust is possible only if one treats the partner equal and keeps no secretive behaviour. There should be no sentence or a phrase that either of them would not know. Some say that by burying some facts marriages could be saved but what if the buried matter emerges out one day???? So instead of trusting that the buried matter would not come out the couple can trust each other mutually. This is most commonly found in men folk they never want to disclose their problems to their counter part as they feel it to be either inferior or they belief that it would not make much difference even if she knows about it. Some men even think that their wife should not know anything about them either their means of earning or what they do. But men folk should understand that just for his sake she has walked into his life leaving behind her family including mother, father, and her siblings. Hence it would be appropriate if the husband shares his feelings with her as he would do with his family and friends. And same might be true with women also she would not want her husband to know about her too much. But this secretive behaviour will induce a rift between the soul mates.   Communication between the couple is the key to keep up the Trust. Right????

Next and most commonly seen is the outcome of possessiveness in letting the marriage to go on rocks. This is mostly found in the women folk. They love their soul mates so much that they would feel uneasy when the husband is with his relatives or friends. The women folk should understand that they have come into the life a man who would have had deep rooted relationship with his family and friends since long. It would not be possible for him to cut ties with all of them and consider only her. And same might be true with men also they have to know that even though his soul mate has left her family to be with him she has the equal amount of longing to meet her family or have a word with them. Some men who are possessive would object their soul mates not have contacts with her parental house. But this possessive behaviour will induce a rift between the soul mates. Understanding the emotions and respecting them is the key to discard possessiveness. Right????? 

At the time of wedding everyone enjoyed ........ when the married couple go separate the kids are the only sufferers.......... 

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