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A noted Malayalam writer writes, “When my mother died, I was small, did not know what was happening and I didn’t cry as I didn’t then know what death was. When my father died, I was an elderly person, even then I didn’t cry but this time I knew what death was.”
Most part of the second chapter in Bhagavad-Gita says body goes into modification process and there is no death for the Soul. Body gets recycled while the soul just changes its location hence there is no need to grieve to either of them. This soul-stirring word on death by the Lord when correctly understood cannot bind one to emotions. If the noted writer had not understood this when his father passed away he would have grieved. Grief is just a state experienced when the reality is known. The world that “should be have been” is different from the world “that in fact is” and accepting that reality is inevitable.
Grief is a natural response to death especially of a person very dear and near. It is vital to shed tears and release the binding emotions and set the mind at rest. It could be the best way to come out of the grief of the loss of a person on the emotional level. When we have an emotional or a psychological reaction in response to a death, it's known as grief. A person who is grieving might sometime feel strong emotions, such as sorrow and also anger.
Suppressing that kind of grief is self-destructive it may result in psycho-emotional and physical disturbances that causes headaches, gastro-intestinal disorders, or heart tremble. So grieving becomes an active process of coping with loss and hence is not something done, but rather happens naturally. With time, endeavor, endurance and perseverance there can be sight of healing that happens gradually. For some healing happens as time passes but for some it is like “Sine Wave” that appear and disappear depending on whenever the loss of person is remembered.
Just like how lullaby song puts a child to sleep there is “Oppari” Songs of Lamentation in rural Tamil Nadu where women folk sing songs to bring out the suppressed emotion. A group of women who sing such songs are invited to the house of dead. They sit in a circle, holding each other and swaying as they wail in a sing-song way, praising the dead person’s good acts. These patho songs bring out the grief in the form of tears and there is an emotional outburst. Though the rural women who sing lamenting songs know that the human body recycles and Soul is indestructible, they sing for those who do not know this and help them put out their emotions.
Oppari is not required if those who release that:
For the born, death is unavoidable;
And for the dead, birth is sure to take place.
Therefore in a situation that is inevitable,
There is no justification for you to grieve. – Bhagavad-Gita Chapter 2 Verse 27
Realization of this does not happen with respect to age or condition, it happen at being aware of the answer to the most important question “Who am I?” For those who are yet to comprehend the answer to this question there is Oppari to put out their emotions at the right time and not to carry them as burden.
A noted Malayalam writer writes, “When my mother died, I was small, did not know what was happening and I didn’t cry as I didn’t then know what death was. When my father died, I was an elderly person, even then I didn’t cry but this time I knew what death was.”
Most part of the second chapter in Bhagavad-Gita says body goes into modification process and there is no death for the Soul. Body gets recycled while the soul just changes its location hence there is no need to grieve to either of them. This soul-stirring word on death by the Lord when correctly understood cannot bind one to emotions. If the noted writer had not understood this when his father passed away he would have grieved. Grief is just a state experienced when the reality is known. The world that “should be have been” is different from the world “that in fact is” and accepting that reality is inevitable.
Grief is a natural response to death especially of a person very dear and near. It is vital to shed tears and release the binding emotions and set the mind at rest. It could be the best way to come out of the grief of the loss of a person on the emotional level. When we have an emotional or a psychological reaction in response to a death, it's known as grief. A person who is grieving might sometime feel strong emotions, such as sorrow and also anger.
Suppressing that kind of grief is self-destructive it may result in psycho-emotional and physical disturbances that causes headaches, gastro-intestinal disorders, or heart tremble. So grieving becomes an active process of coping with loss and hence is not something done, but rather happens naturally. With time, endeavor, endurance and perseverance there can be sight of healing that happens gradually. For some healing happens as time passes but for some it is like “Sine Wave” that appear and disappear depending on whenever the loss of person is remembered.
Just like how lullaby song puts a child to sleep there is “Oppari” Songs of Lamentation in rural Tamil Nadu where women folk sing songs to bring out the suppressed emotion. A group of women who sing such songs are invited to the house of dead. They sit in a circle, holding each other and swaying as they wail in a sing-song way, praising the dead person’s good acts. These patho songs bring out the grief in the form of tears and there is an emotional outburst. Though the rural women who sing lamenting songs know that the human body recycles and Soul is indestructible, they sing for those who do not know this and help them put out their emotions.
Oppari is not required if those who release that:
For the born, death is unavoidable;
And for the dead, birth is sure to take place.
Therefore in a situation that is inevitable,
There is no justification for you to grieve. – Bhagavad-Gita Chapter 2 Verse 27
Realization of this does not happen with respect to age or condition, it happen at being aware of the answer to the most important question “Who am I?” For those who are yet to comprehend the answer to this question there is Oppari to put out their emotions at the right time and not to carry them as burden.
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