644. Stop Judging and Try Understanding………..

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To judge someone we need just a second but to understand them we need a lot of time. “Face is the index of the Mind” this famous phrase asks me to keep my face pleasant and presentable to others. It does not say judge a persons mind by looking at the face. To know ones mind an entire life time is not enough, just a mere look in the face will not help know what is in the mind. When I judge you I stop myself from understanding you and I may often get misguided also. Hence to have a good and long lasting relationship with my family and friends, I need to stop judging and start understanding them to the core. All that appears on the surface is cannot be true. On the surface everything might look derisive or deceiving.

In this life span of mine I have remain differently in all the stages as child, teenager, young adult, and now as a middle aged. There was innocence as child, freshness of approach in my teenage, mental maturity as a young adult, intellectual growth and emotional stability has developed in me over the years. I was not the same all the time, likewise to know a person, I need to persist in understanding the person over a period of time and let go my judgmental attitude.  

A Guru had four disciples who lacked maturity and wisdom. He wanted them to learn how to understand events and people and stop making quick judgments. So he sent them out to go and observe at a huge mango tree which grew at a great distance near a mountain one by one.

The first disciple went in the winter season, the second was there during the spring, the third trekked in summer and the fourth camped there before the fall. At the end of the year Guru called them together and asked them to describe what they had observed about the mango tree.

The first disciple said that the mango tree was without beauty, twisted and distorted. There was nothing great to talk about it and the long journey to observe the tree was a wasteful venture.

The second disciple objected to the first and said he was a blind fellow not to observe the light green leaf and buds which had an alluring fragrance. It was a symbol of a great future.  

The third disciple said that the mango tree was magnificent and full of leaves and green mangoes. There were naughty squirrels and parrots which took shelter in its greenery. To sleep under the shades of the tree and feel the cool breeze was like heaven. Perhaps the two disciples failed to observe the full truth of the reality of the mango tree.

The last disciple said all his co-disciples were idiots and born blind as they could not see the tree bent with the luscious golden fruits and they lack the art of appreciation and were fools not to have enjoyed the rich ripe mangoes.

Just then an explosion broke out between the disciples each one calling the other names and claiming what he saw to be true. Guru intervened and said what all of them had observed was right and true. He added that though what each explained was true, it was incomplete as they had seen only one season of the tree’s life. He explained to them that it is not possible or right to judge a tree or a thing or a person by one season only......What say???