Sri Krishna uses two words “Amaanitvam and Adambhitvam” (Humility and Humbleness) while explaining to Arjuna in Bhagavad-Gita Chapter 13 verse 8, which are prerequisites characteristic of a person who has acquired true knowledge. Amaanitvam or humility is an intrinsic character that is not in-born while it is learnt through wisdom gained through knowledge and by understanding the society and people around us. Adambhitvam or humbleness is behavioural feature that is not merely an act but that which is ingrained in our conduct.
Sri Krishna went to Hastinapura to mediate between Kauravas and Pandavas and make a last effort to stop the war. Prince Duryodhana arranged a grand welcome to Sri Krishna; he erected many pavilions full of precious gems on the either side of the road. Duryodhana welcomed Sri Krishna by presenting him the garland of precious gems and pearls, and arranged the preparation of Chhappan Bhog (56 varieties of delicacies) with the intention of having the Lord in good books. Duryodhana urged Him to have food, Sri Krishna replied, “I will have food only where I find love and belovedness.”
Duryodhana who was furious over what he heard from Sri Krishna, ordered his subordinates to capture Krishna immediately. Sri Krishna stood up and said, “You would not have ordered for my arrest if you had any love for me. This grand welcome is useless if there is no love.” Saying so He left to Vidura's house, who according to the Lord had wealthy of knowledge.
Vidura has nothing but a wooden plank to offer Him and was remorseful about it. Sri Krishna told him, “Vidura you have offered Me Hridaysimhasana (Throne of Heart).” A person who has wealthy and no knowledge lacks Vinaya (Gentleness) also. Gentleness is the inner stuff.
Those who lack inner stuff are the one who want to show what they have outside. When there is nothing or very little inside, there is an extreme urge to show out; it is then that all pomp and show get exhibited. It will justify the proverb “Empty vessels make more noise.” A person who thus exhibits feels that if does not do so he will be rejected and will not be given importance! Mind will be in a dilemma, to be acceptable in society as a person of knowledge or an important person. But the reality is that the need to exhibit comes because of the basic need of appreciation. Both self-pride and pomposity is manifestation of a sick mind. There is an urgent need to treat this disease. The only treatment is to be happy with ourselves. If we are happy with ourselves, then there is no needed to look for appreciation from other. If there is an urge to get appreciation from others it is clear that we are not happy with ourselves. When we are not happy with our self we take refuge of Dambhachara (Pomposity).
Pomposity means desire to show off one’s qualities or possessions and stand elite. Pomposity may sometime lead to unlawful means of amassing wealth. It is acceptable to pursue wealth through decent means, but then if money becomes the main criteria for status it is bad for society. If the youngsters get the notion that becoming wealthy is the only way to obtain status, then they tend to get the idea of reaping without sowing and looking for easy money. There is a saying in Kannada “Kai Kesaradare Bai Mosaru” (When your hands get dirty while working your mouth will be filled with yogurt.) Meaning: Hard work pays you dividends.
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