73. Happiness without decisive factor …….. !!!!

A sensible person is happy even in rough times while a stupid person is unhappy even in pleasant times. People more often blame the bad time and wait for the good time. In fact leading a happy life is itself a spiritual path. If we are aware of living a life without regrets we will have a liberating experience. But at the onset we have to evaluate life properly, or it can be very perplexing. To begin with, we have to realize if we want to be happy for our sake of for others curiosity. Most of us are very much incline to see that others are more curious about our life and struggle had to achieve so called happiness. So it is more important for us to decide whether it is important to be happy or make others feel that we are happy. It’s really that simple. Once we make that choice, our path through life becomes totally clear. 

 Most of us who have decided to be happy feel there are more hurdles in our way, but it is not so. Happiness is inbuilt no external materials can make us happy or for the matter sad. Happiness is not the nonexistence of problems but the skill to deal with them. Someone might say, “Well, of course I want to be happy, but my wife is always nagging.” In other words, they want to be happy, but cannot as their wife cause irritation. But that wasn’t the question. The question was, very simply, “Do we want to be happy or not?” If we keep it that simple, we will notice that it is under our control. It’s just that we have a deep-rooted set of favorites that gets in the way and spoil our happiness. Being happy doesn't mean that everything is going according to our wish. It means that we've decided to look beyond the flaws. 

Lets us suppose we are on a yacht and been lost without food or water for days in the ocean. In an effort to reach land we are successful and we land on the shore feeble and pathetic, someone on the beach look at our fate and ask us “Oh God! You all look so weak! Do you want something to eat? What would you like?” Now the truth is, we really don’t care what they give us. We don’t even want to think about it. We just need something to eat, so our word is “food.” And because we are in such a position that we just need something to eat, it no longer has anything to do with our taste bud preferences. The situation will be same with happiness. The issue is simply do we want to be happy? If the respond is yes, then it has to be without criteria, grade or quality. After all what really matter is we want to be happy from this point of time for the rest of our life regardless of what happens like wife is pain in neck, or husband dies, or crash in stock market, or car breaks down on an open highway at night.

Let's all retain the happiness we had at infancy!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

 “Life is a horse cart. Fate is its driver. You are the horse. He (the driver) decides the passengers. Marriage or funeral, run whichever way you are asked to. If your legs fail, you have the ground to support you.” ---- D. V. Gundappa {Mankuthimmana Kagga}