98. One cannot find Fault unless he is a Perfectionist!!!!!!!!!

It is very easy to find fault in others. Yes, to err is human; to forgive is divine. Humans make mistakes. But some of us have the tendency to find fault in almost everything and every person. The wisdom word is that all of us have not got the same attitudes and understanding. Well, if the purpose of writing this blog is about the mistakes of some individuals finding fault then I am also making the same mistake and amazingly in may sound like finding fault. Right??? Many of us carry this attitude to extremes and would unknowingly develop the habit of looking for flaws. This habit makes them feel the joy of telling each and everyone about every small mistake that they notice in them. They then feel that they are doing a favor, but unfortunately they never realize that they are not in a position in which people expect them to find mistakes and when they are told so, it hurts their feelings. Once Lord Krishna invited both Duryodhana and Yudishthira to Dwaraka. Lord Krishna asks Yudhishthira to go out into the city of Dwaraka and find if there is someone less qualified than himself. And He also asked Duryodhana to search for someone better than himself. Duryodhana returned and told Lord Krishna that he couldn’t find anyone superior to himself. While Yudhishthira, also returned unable to find anyone inferior to him. In this episode of Mind Psychology what Lord Krishna wants us to understand is that the closer one comes to his original pure identity, the more he shows humility and is free from the habit of seeing the faults in others. While one falls away from his pure identity he feels more superior to others and has a habit of finding faults in them and not in himself. In finding fault we are very often than not adding a negative element to our relationship with that person. Thus we are at loss in terms of defining limits of trust and sharing. If we are a person of finding fault a very few people would like to share with us. We lose much of the information that makes us aware through that sharing and we become more isolated. The loss of the sharing of knowledge is one of the greatest losses that can happen to us, and it may even reach a point at which people may ignore us or would not like our presence at all. A man was worried that his wife wasn’t hearing well as she used to, so he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called his family doctor to discuss the problem. The doctor told him there is a simple test, which could ascertain about her hearing loss. The doctor asked the man to stand about 40 feet away from her, and speak to her in normal conversational tone, see if she hears. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until he got a response. That evening, when his wife was in the kitchen, cooking dinner, he was in the drawing room, standing about 40 feet away from her. In a normal tone he asked “Honey, what’s for dinner?” No response! So he moved closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet No Response, then 20 feet No Response, 10 feet No Response and 5 feet same. So he walks up and whispers behind her “Honey, what’s for dinner?” “Manoj, for the fifth time I’ve told, “Chappati & Dal”. “I think you have hearing problem” She said. Sometimes, the problem may not be with the other as we always presume; it could be within us. So it is advisable to look within ourselves before we find fault with others.